Dealing with Divorce
For many people, the divorce of their parents marks a turning point in their lives, whether the divorce happened many years ago or is taking place right now. 50%marriages in the United States today end in divorce, so children of divorce are certainly not alone. It may seem hard, but it is possible to cope with divorce - and have a happy family life in spite of some changes divorce may bring. After all, couples divorce one another, not their kids.
There's no doubt that your parents' divorce will affect your daily life. Depending on your particular situation, you may have to adjust to many changes. These could include things like moving and changing schools, spending time with both parents separately, and dealing with some parents' unpleasant feelings toward one another.
There are over 1 million children in the U.S. that have been affected by divorce. There will be ups and downs in the process, but teens can cope successfully with their parents' divorce and the changes it brings. You may even discover some unexpected positives. Many teens find their parents are actually happier after the divorce or they may develop new and better ways of relating to both parents when they have separate time with each one.
posted by Rubik @ 11:43 AM
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7 Comments:
how to deal with divorce is realy hard to deal with because some kids think its them but it's not them.
i havent had to deal with devorce but i am sure it would be hard because of the fact that you family will never be the same.
you know what- parents are parents- they willl do what they please- they care but not enought to explain to us- people dont give us enough credit- we are teens but you know we have brains- divorce wasnt hard on me- because i knew how to deal with it. its NEVER the kids fault EVER the parents are just so....parents.
Divorce for me was a completly expected but also a non realistic situation. I knew that my parents were having difficulties but I really didn't think that they would actually follow through. The main thing that really bothered me and is still bothering me is that of the lack of communication. I am not retarted I know what divorse is and parents need to actually talk with their kids and tell them straight up what is happening. When they dont it lets your mind wonder and allows us to think up the worst situations.
Dealing with divorce is very hard to deal with at any age, but the younger you are, the worse it may be. Childern with divorced parents have to, at some point, realize that this isn't the end of the world. It is only a little setback. Also, the divorce may be a good thing. Parents get in way too deep sometimes, and it is too much to handle. However, the childern stuck in the middle should never feel like it is their fault. Even if the kids do live at two homes, that doesn't mean thay are loved any less.
I don't think that divorce is a bad thing. A couple who stays together simply for the sake of staying together is going to be less happy than if they would just let go, because that negativity between them affects those around them, such as children or relatives. Sometimes it's just for the best of all involved, even though it can be tough.
Dealing with divorce is not easy for anyone involved in it. Often children spend their wishes and prays hoping for their parents to get back together. When going through a divorce the children have two choices, they can let it be an excuse for them, or they can let it be something that they learn from and makes them a better person. When going through a divorce there are some things to think about to help the children get through it. It is not the worst thing that could happen. You still have both of your parents that you will always be able to talk too. They are not gone for good. Eventually down the line there could be a step dad or mom that will show another side to life that would have never been possible without a divorce. Some day down the line you might have friends that you have to help get through it. Then of course everyone’s favorite you get two Christmases and two birthdays. Don’t let divorce be an excuse not to be great, let it be your stepping stone to grow and achieve even more.
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